WEEKLY MALA MEDITATION: The Four Agreements (IV)

This is week IV and the last week of our theme using the book, “The Four Agreements” by Don Miguel Ruiz. This week, we’re focusing on the fourth agreement, “Always Do Your Best.” Here is his summary of this agreement: “Your best is going to change from moment to moment; it will be different when you are healthy as opposed to sick. Under any circumstances, simply do your best, and you will avoid self-judgment, self-abuse, and regret.”

This fourth agreement ties in all the other agreements. The author explains, “The first three agreements will only work if you do your best. Don’t expect that you will always be able to be impeccable with your word. Your routine habits are too strong and firmly rooted in your mind. But you can do your best. Don’t expect that you will never take anything personally; just do your best. Don’t expect that you will never make another assumption, but you can certainly do your best. By doing your best, the habits of misusing your word, taking things personally, and making assumptions will become weaker and less frequent with time. You don’t need to judge yourself, feel guilty, or punish yourself if you cannot keep these agreements. If you are doing your best, you will feel good about yourself even if you still make assumptions, still take things personally, and still are not impeccable with your word. If you do your best always, over and over again, you will become a master of transformation.”

Awareness is key. When you begin to out these things into practice, you begin to be more consciously aware of the moments in your life when they are relevant. For example, you’ll begin to catch yourself making an assumption or taking things personally. It’s only in the awareness of these things that we can begin to make a conscious decision to adjust our thoughts. Give yourself grace when putting these things into practice, and just simply do your best- whatever that looks like in the moment.

HOW TO USE YOUR MALA: 
Starting next to the guru bead, move your fingers from one counting bead to the next as you say the affirmations in the photo. Once you've returned to the guru bead, you have completed a full meditation!

May be an image of one or more people and text that says 'THE FOUR AGREEMENTS IV.ALWAYS DO YOUR BEST •I do my best with my actions and words. My best will look different from moment to moment, and that's okay. .I give myself grace and forgiveness. .As I build these new habits, my best will become better. I am here to live, to be happy, and to love. Bridge To Balance, LLC & Don Miguel Ruiz'

Fatherhood- the movie

When my husband Matt and I got engaged, I made a bunch of friends on the internet when planning our wedding through TheKnot. They found Matt Logelin’s blog when his wife died 27 hours after giving birth to their baby and had been reading it ever since. When my Matt died not long after his Liz, my friends reached out to him in hopes he would reach out to me to somehow help me.
He did reach out, and did help me. He is the one that introduced me to Michele Neff Hernandez and Soaring Spirits- a whole wonderful community of widowed people that saves each other (www.soaringspirits.org). 

This Father’s Day, check out the movie about my friend Matt and his daughter Maddy, and a little bit about their life… 
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Father's Day

Feeling extremely fortunate I get to finally go see my 84 year old dad in Syracuse today after a year and a half!!
Happy Father’s Day in Heaven to my sweet husband, and sending Father’s Day love to all the dads, the kids without dads, and the moms playing the part of both parents.

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This is what love without conditions looks like...

May be an image of one or more people and text that says 'All of you is welcome Your pain Your sadness Your anger Your shame Your joy Your guilt Your grief All of you is welcome here'

WEEKLY MALA MEDITATION: The Four Agreements (III)

This is week III of our theme using the book, “The Four Agreements” by Don Miguel Ruiz. Last week, we used the second agreement, “Don’t Take Anything Personally” and this week we’re focusing on the third agreement, “Don’t Make Assumptions.” 

His summary of this agreement states, “Find the courage to ask questions and to express what you really want. Communicate with others as clearly as you can to avoid misunderstandings, sadness, and drama. With just this one agreement, you can completely transform your life.” And it’s true! This man really knows what he’s talking about. 

HOW TO USE YOUR MALA:
Starting next to the guru bead, move your fingers from one counting bead to the next as you say the affirmations in the photo. Once you’ve returned to the guru bead, you have completed a full meditation!

May be an image of one or more people and text that says 'THE FOUR AGREEMENTS III. DON'T MAKE ASSUMPTIONS It is safe for me to ask questions. Instead of assuming the worst, I ask for clarification. People won't know what I'm thinking unless I tell them. •I don't know what people are thinking unless I ask them. I would rather know the truth than imagine a lie. Bridge To Balance, LLC & Don Miguel Ruiz'

True healing...

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WEEKLY MALA MEDITATION: The Four Agreements (II)

May be an image of text that says 'THE FOUR AGREEMENTS II.DON'TTAKEANYTHING PERSONALLY. I can choose how I perceive everything around me. I see the world through different eyes, as does everybody else. •I am not someone's opinion. I am secure in myself without the need of outside validation. It is better to be kind than right. Bridge To Balance, LLC & Don Miguel Ruiz'

This is week II of IV of our theme using the book, “The Four Agreements” by Don Miguel Ruiz. Last week, we used the first agreement, “Be Impeccable With Your Word” and this week we’re focusing on the second agreement, “Don’t Take Anything Personally.” His summary of this agreement states, “Nothing others do is because of you. What others say and do is a projection of their own reality, their own dream. When you are immune to the opinions and actions of others, you won’t be the victim of needless suffering.” 

This one can be tricky to really understand because it’s hard to imagine that the way people respond to us isn’t because of us at all. I’ve learned to understand it this way: Everyone’s perceptions are vastly different. Our perceptions are influenced by many factors that include things like our previous experiences, mood, health, exhaustion, and hunger. You could have ten people hear one person tell a story, then upon asking those ten people to repeat the story, you will hear ten different versions. The same concept applies to children raises in the same household- each child has a very different perspective of the same upbringing. 

To put it more simply, if someone perceives things negatively, they will have a negative response, and if someone perceives things in a positive light, they will have a more positive response. Ultimately, everyone is responsible for their own behavior, happiness, decisions, responses, etc. and most of it is determined by their own perception. Don Miguel Ruiz explains it much more thoroughly in his book.

HOW TO USE YOUR MALA:
Starting next to the guru bead, move your fingers from one counting bead to the next as you say the affirmations in the photo. Once you’ve returned to the guru bead, you have completed a full meditation!

June 3, 2021 - New Mala!

This is the first Mala I’ve made for myself! I wanted a Mala I could feel comfortable wearing on my wrist while incorporating the semi-precious chakra stones. The sandalwood is comfortable and lightweight, the tones are neutral, and it’s right up my alley! I’ll be making more similar to this for the Mala Shop!

https://www.bridgetobalancellc.com/malas-for-purchase

WEEKLY MALA MEDITATION: The Four Agreements (IV)

This is week IV and the last week of our theme using the book, “The Four Agreements” by Don Miguel Ruiz. This week, we’re focusing on the fo...